Tantra and Attachment

The principle of attachment is often thought to be simply a factor of relationship. Our lives are usually defined by our relationship to others and th ematerial objects and other factors of our environment. These are our friends, loved ones, family, our possessions, our position, and our reputation.

Fear of loss of these, or a fear of failure in any area, is often thought to be what causes much of the stress and discontent in our lives.

Another cause of stress and discontentment might be a failure to acquire what is desired in an object relationship, whether it be another individual, a position we need to achieve, or a material object we need or want to acquire.

While these are important factors to the understanding of attachment, the principle of attachment and its definition goes quite a bit deeper.

We all experience states of emotion and arousal. When we attach those inner states to outer events, circumstances, or individuals, that is another aspect of the principle of attachment. Attachment in any form causes stress and anxiety as the fear of loss or inability to acquire accompanies the attachment.

All of our states of being emanate from within us and we have complete control over those states of being. When our assumption is that outer circumstances create those inner feelings we live in an illusion rather than in reality. We often say or think, "You make me angry", or "That situation saddens me", or "My wife does things that make me jealous".

In addition we often feel that if we acquire something, an object, position, or relationship, that we will be happy or satisfied. We feel as if it is something outside of ourselves that makes us angry, or happy. We also think that we would be happier if the world was at peace, our governmental officials seemed to be more competent, or any number of situations that might be different.

If we believe, for example, that a different relationship, a different job, a different house, car, or moving to another geographical area will make us happy or content, this is an important aspect of the principle of attachment.

If we believe that our anger or frustration is caused by circumstances outside of us, this is the principle of attachment.

Understanding that these states of being are within us and totally in our control is at least partially ethe resolution of the illusion of attachment.

The principle of attachment is related to the principle of emptiness as the action of another or the presence or absence of objects in our environment does not "mean" anything in and of itself.